Re: USS Vengeance & Mass Destruction.
The incident was not glossed over, the ceremony is right there.
On the other hand, it could have been handled a little bit better. Show 10 seconds of personal drama, have a man run in horror towards the destruction, past police, screaming "my child is there, my goodness, let me through!!!!!!!!!!!!!", have Kirk explicitly highlight the civilians in his speech as their deaths are much more inexcusable than the people from his crew that (I assume) were in the coffins that had their moment.
R.I.P. Admiral James T. Kirk (2233-2267, 1969, 2267, 1930, 2267-2268, 1968, 2268-2269, Serpeidon Middle Ages, 2269, 2237, 2269-2286, 1986, 2286-2293, 2371)