If you think about it, the fan notion that pon farr
is male-only is kind of an oddity, since that's never suggested by the dialogue in "Amok Time." Spock says it's something Vulcans go through, not Vulcan men. "How do Vulcans choose their mates?" "It strips our minds from us." And particularly "...at the proper time, we would both be drawn to Koon-ut-kal-if-fee
." The only thing he says that even hints at it being male-only is "we are driven by forces we cannot control to return home and take a wife."
Well, on second thought, I guess the idea comes from the fact that T'Pring wasn't going through the blood fever while Spock was. But then, T'Pring had presumably had Stonn's "help" to ease her symptoms. Or maybe she was just that cold.