If multiple people are telling you that you're coming across a certain way then the problem resides with you, not them.
Wow. By your own logic, then gay people shouldn't come out at as homosexual all because homophobic bullies are justified in their opinions because of their number?
What amazing moral principles you live by. Truly.
Nice try but no.
Listen, if people on this board keep telling you that you're coming across in a certain way, and people DO keep telling you that, then you're going to need to learn that this means, in all likelihood, that the problem is you, not everyone else. A crucial lesson that social interaction teaches is that if everyone clashes with you then it's likely not everyone else's fault.