Re: decision regarding Rugal incomprehensible!
^ Agreed. Kotan Pa'Dar is as much an innocent party to all of this as Rugal is. There is no real indication that Kotan would be an unfit parent, or that he wasn't hurt by what had happened. Kotan clearly loved his son and was devastated at being rejected by him.
And Rugal was indeed kidnapped - used as a pawn by Dukat.
"If the world was perfect, it wouldn't be." - Yogi Berra