Re: what do people want star trek 3 to be like
I agree with everything in your first paragraph. The inconsistencies didn't start with Abrams and they've always diminished my enjoyment of the franchise.
You must not like the franchise at all then. The inconsistancies have been there since the beginning of TOS. After all, we never saw Spock smile again.
"He clapped his captain—his friend—on the shoulder. Yes, this man was very much like James Kirk, in all the ways that mattered." --Christopher L. Bennett-- Star Trek: Mere Anarachy, The Darkness Drops Again