If you're honestly arguing that any movie that's set in a fictional world has no obligation to internal consistency then I really have no reply to that.
Have you actually taken a step back and investigated Star Trek
's track record as far as internal consistency goes prior to the Abramsverse films? It's an incoherent train wreck that has been given a pass because of creative fans spending decades smoothing over the massive cracks created by having dozens upon dozens of writers with differing visions over seven-hundred plus hours of material.
All I expect any creative team to do is get the broad strokes right, which Abrams and Company have done.
I agree with everything in your first paragraph. The inconsistencies didn't start with Abrams and they've always diminished my enjoyment of the franchise.