The amount of thought expended on this is extraordinary. In The Wrath of Khan, the Kobayashi Maru scenario was a foreshadowing of the plot and a metaphorical announcement of the true no-win scenario, the inevitable end of life by death. Kirk can be expected to think the test is as unfair as death. In the Abrams movies, it's not really about anything except "Badass punks the teacher!" No amount of twaddle or even bizarre-world indignation is going to make one Kirk's action the equivalent of the other.
Meyer killed Spock in the first few minutes of the movie to troll the fans.
"The end of life by death." Is that supposed to be profound?
In Abram's movie we see how Kirk "punks the teacher". TWOK just tells us that he "punk[ed] the teacher"