I took my best friend to see STID on Monday. It was his first time and my third.
We are the same age (39) and he's a diehard Trekker like I am.
He was in awe the whole time - laughing at all the little in jokes (like the scene with Chekov and "put on a red shirt") and gripping his seat handles during the action. He is thoroughly a fan of Cumberbatch's portrayal and felt that Cumberbatch as Khan was genuinely terrifying and inhuman, like someone conceived in a Petri dish should be, and he also expressed that the Kirk death scene for him had *more* emotional resonance than the original scene in TWOK.