Honestly I'd rather have the sex than the love.
You make it too easy.
But you're absolutely right. Trek has always been way too wishy-washy and juvenile in the way it depicts interpersonal relationships.
It's suppose to be this super-advance, tolerant culture, and yet everyone's a prude.
The way Picard is portrait in his relationship with Crusher is a lot like the boys in high school slice-of-life anime. It's kind of pathetic, really.
It's not like I'm expecting total soft-core, or even a long drawn out marriage thing. But it would have been nice to have shown them run off on shore leave together, have a shag, and come back to work. Like grown-ups do.