I HATE the relationship!!
First, in the federation it is against regulation to have a relationship with a person you supervise
You might want to rewatch "Balance of Terror" or "The Lights of Zetar" which directly contradict what you're saying.
You're mistakenly applying TNG-era Starfleet rules to a TOS movie.
Oh wait, then there's Riker and Troi, who got married... Worf and Troi before that... Picard and Beverly...
Oh wait, wait! Worf and Dax in DS9, Tom and B'Elanna in Voyager.
And of course the line "have I not demonstrated exceptional oral sensitivity" sickens me. It turns Uhura into not much more than a prostitute who is sleeping her way to the top - instead of the reality that was presented in TOS that she was the best damn communications officer in the fleet. It so saddens me that Nichols worked so hard to portray Uhura as both an intelligent black woman - to have jj Abrams movies reverse all of that makes me very sad.
You mean her unparalleled ability to identify sonic anomalies in subspace transmission tests? What a whore!