All excellent points.
And here we have a description of Chakotay's response to Janeway's death in the books. I believe he flirted with the idea of killing himself if only by stupid wallow quests out in the elements. It is quite a shocking contrast with Mark's response to Janeway's death:
Guy Gardener wrote:
A more dependant man would have killed himself, a slightly less dependant man would have wallowed in grief for 20 years
It seems that..
Alpha men are attracted to Janeway (Mark, Kashyyk)
Beta men are attracted to Janeway (Chakotay, Work Force guy)
Gamma men are attracted to Janeway (the EMH, see butt feeling fantasy) and
Omega men are attracted to Janeway (Barclay wasn't just obsessed with the ship).
EVERYONE is attracted to Janeway and Greek letters just let us put them in boxes so she can sort through them at her leisure and pick out what she wants.