I usually don't have an issue using helmsman for female, neutral or multi-gendered personnel that handle the stick and rudder. I went with woman as I think it fits with the kind of character Miss Reese is.
It could have been worse, I could have gone with helmsperson. Originally I was going with the job title 'Pilot', but I always think that fits better with shuttles, rather than actual ships.
Currently trying to work on the pilot story now.