Re: Ever like a show but...
As for the way that gender comes into it, well, I've never seen any of the angsty male heroes who had bad things happen to them called "whiny". Oh look that Whiny Cry Sisko, his wife got killed, boo hoo! Look at that Odo with his identity issues, what a whiner! That whiny Batman, still hung up on his parents' death!
"Who are you?! And how did you get in here?!"
"I'm the locksmith. And... I'm the locksmith."