Real Trek is what ever CBS says it is. Currently that's the movies JJ Abrams is making. Oh and it is a quality product. Previous Trek films, not so much. (Though I enjoyed many of them).
So you like technobabble? I guess there had to be at least one person who does. Hey, if you like the technobabble, wait for the TNG reboot. This one is TOS where the TB is minimal .
The ships look "better" because the movie was made in 2009 not 1999.
If you saw the movie you know why they were placed in their position in spite being young and inexperienced.
Its a reboot, clean or not. The old continuity isn't coming back either way.
What events after Nemesis
? Romulus was blown up. That's about it.