But that's not what I'm talking about. I'm saying that we can see right there in the actual comics that Peter Parker fell in love with her because of her kindness, her willingness to stick with him through hardship, and the like. It's not about rating her looks or her IQ on a numerical scale, it's about the bonds that form between two people through their shared experience and emotional ties. Of course she looked hot and sexy; most characters in visually oriented fiction do, so it doesn't really mean that much in context, especially when the writers surround Peter with lots of other gorgeous love interests like Gwen and the Black Cat and Glory Grant, not to mention all the gorgeous, scantily clad superheroines he works alongside. What matters is the stories, the interaction between the characters. The stories clearly show that Peter and MJ's relationship is about shared experience and commitment and trust, about their mutual support for one another. Which is not to say it hasn't been a turbulent relationship; there were a couple of times when she left him. And the fact that they were able to work through that and reunite (up until the idiocy of "One More Day") shows how much substance their was to their relationship, beyond the superficial factor of how she looked.
I agree. What matters is the stories and the characters and the relationship
-- not the fact she has to look like a gorgeous supermodel just because the comics happen to draw her that way.
You can't say "it doesn't matter" on one hand, and then insist that she has
to look a certain way on the other.