I disagree. Abrams lets out a little information and lets the fans assume a different direction.
The first movie was, indeed, about destiny... the crew was destined to come together, even with the changes in the new timeline. Spock said as much in the cave on Delta Vega.
“When all Americans are treated as equal, no matter who they are or whom they love, we are all more free.” -Pres. Obama
"A great democracy does not make it harder to vote than to buy an assault weapon." -Pres. Clinton