J. Allen wrote:
As it gets closer to Valentine's Day, also known as Singles Awareness Day, I've been waxing philosophical (read: grumbling to myself) about the idea that there is someone for every person, that somewhere in this world is at least one person who would love to know you, and be with you, that you would make their lives whole.
Anyway, what do you think?
I can be very blunt sometimes, and I hope you don't take it personally when I say that is absolute nonsense. Romantic twaddle, peddled by the TV and movie industry that should not be believed.
Just like, for example, breaking into colleges and performing hijinks. In the movies they get away with it and have all sort of funny adventures - in reality, not so. I recall reading a newspaper article about a group of pranksters that broke into a school and erected an indoor swimming pool in the hallway, and were subsequently arrested and jailed. Exactly like in the movies - NOT. And (speaking from experience), entering a girls dorm to engage in wacky antics will (usually) not get you into an exciting sexual adventure as much as it will get you escorted off campus.
Going back to romance and the 'love of your life', Johnny Galeki (sp?) said in an interview recently that he considered Penny and Leonard to be the 'love of each other's lives', which just goes to show how deeply ingrained this fantasy of the 'one special person' is. If Big Bang was real, they would never have hooked up, it would have been months of awkward greetings in the hallway and if he was lucky he would have ended up in her 'special friend' zone where he gets to listen to her talk about her mean boyfriends. Because that is the real world.
Statistically there may be many potential partners out there with greater or lesser degrees of compatibility with you. The size of the pool of potential partners would depend on personality and looks and money and all of those other things that people pretend don't matter, but really do.
It's not my inteintion to be negative, although I can see why you'd think that I am. It's important to be realistic about these things.