I've learned another thing in all of this... being isolated from your family is a dreadful thing. In the past few years, our relationship with my mom's side of the family has deteriorated horribly. I've tried rebuilding things, but... Mom has built things up in her head so badly that Dad doesn't want to deal with her agitation. Further, when she first went into the hospital when the strokelike symptoms came (wasn't a stroke, though), Mom didn't want them to know or visit her.