It's not really a saying, but the exchange a few pages back about consoling someone in a tough situation reminds me of an exchange that often happens to me that irritates me.
Person: <explains bad thing that happened to them>
Me: I'm so sorry.
Person: Why are you sorry? You didn't do anything wrong!
I'm not apologizing for doing the bad thing
which I obviously didn't do, I'm expressing my sympathy. I'm saying "I'm so sorry that you are in this situation, and I sympathize." Is it really necessary for me to explain that, shouldn't it be obvious from the context?