Data Holmes wrote:
Nerys Ghemor wrote:
My most hated saying is, "Sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me."
Sometimes, it's the things people say to you that hurt even worse than a physical injury because you have to live with them forever.
I always liked that one because it's true. The wounds from words are your own creation. If you don't let them hurt you, they are only words that shed off of you like water from a ducks back.
It's a valuable lesson to instill within children.
On the contrary, it's a horrible lesson, for many reasons, the least of which incude that it is probably true for only a tiny percent of people, who are either somewhat antisocial or in denial, and that it is part of a greater culture of externalizing blame ("I was cruel to you and hurt your feelings, therefore you are weak!" Bullshit. You hurt my feelings because you were cruel). This mindset of externalizing blame ultimately comes down to not taking responsibility for yourself and your actions.