Ooo don't quote that sf dude to me. I will not read or watch him. If he wants my esteem let him come here and post!
He wanted Janeway and he wanted Picard because they had strong personalities and were leaders of their ships. He could have a child with a freaking farm animal if he wanted to, but the hint of mutuality is what he sought. If you're going to look for mutuality that flatters you then you start at the top.