Guy Gardener wrote:
It was 19th century Ireland, not to different from Ireland today.
The wife is allowed to hit you once with the frying pan and then all is forgiven.
What I learnt from watching 3 seasons of Deadwood is that wives would not give and would not be asked to give blow jobs. It was seen as unclean, and doubly so for sodomy. Which is why prostitutes were a necessary evil before men and women could talk frankly about their sexual needs before committing to the rest of their lives together.
There was some horrible movie about the Mob with Billy Crystal who sets my teeth on edge as a Psychiatrist. He asks the mafia guy he's following around in some kind of therapy adventure why he goes to prostitutes when he clearly adores his wife. The mob guy tells him it's to get blow jobs and Billy asks why he can't do this with his wife and the mafia guy says,
"You want her to do that with the mouth she kisses my children good night with?!"