I didn't realize she deleted the wife. Dang.
This is one reason why I found Janeway interesting. She's responsible, moral, compassionate, etc, but she has this secret ballsy, side to her.
Like she'll do naughty things because' she's human too'.
Sure it's just a hologram but consider this--he was real enough to fall in love and have sex with , but yet at the same time, his marriage was unreal enough to delete??
That was some questionable stuff there.
But I noticed this may be why many Trek fans claim Janeway was a bad captain. Once, I asked why, and basically the answer was that she was dangerously inconsistent, almost to the point of being a mental job.