Maple Dog wrote:
And both failed to saved their wives, Khan was unable, and Nero simply forgot to beam her off of Romulus.
Wan't Nero away when Romulus was destroyed?
The destruction of Romulus didn't come out of nowhere, there was time for government discussion on what to do, time for Spock to travel to Vulcan, acquire a ship with red matter, and return to the Empire.
It is unclear how much was general known by the Romulan people, however Nero was able to be in the vicinity of the supernova immediately after Romulus's destruction, to intercept Spock.
Nero isn't responsible for the destruction of Romulus, but he is (imo) culpable in the death of his wife, in so far as he did nothing to save her.