I thought it was an interesting and surprising move. The bit in the turbolift seemed like it came from out of nowhere, but suddenly earlier scenes had a deeper meaning. And it even worked in a way with early scenes in the original series.
For this film, it made sense. Like the destruction of Vulcan, there was a shock value to it, but it also served to introduce genuinely new directions for Trek.
I prefer the notion of Spock as the outsider. He's the alien who reflects on humanity, and this change humanizes him far too much. So while it worked for that one film, I think it works against one of the strengths of the original character.
I didn't vote in your poll, because there was no appropriate response that correlates with my opinion.