I got to see Kate Mulgrew at a sci-fi convention this summer. She looks nice and really engaged the audience I thought. She even managed to answer all the weird questions with a straight face. One fan there said that Captain Janeway made her realize she was a lesbian.
Personally I fall in love with a person's character - the gender doesn't really matter. Maybe certain features are more represented in males and other features can be found mainly in females. And depending what one is seeking in another person the probability to fall for males or females only can be rather high. I adore those that represent a character and a set of mind which I aspire myself.
KM/KJ is my version of OMEGA...