Every incident in Picard's life could be related to in a real world comparisson, except for assimilation. As tragic as they are, we've either known people who - or we ourselves - have gone through family deaths and tragedies. Even torture situations, abuse have been felt by too many. But assimilation seems to go even beyond that. For me, I honestly can't really grasp what it would be like to be forced into that situation. That makes it seem the worst, as far as I'm concerned.