Look the stereotype is black males abandon their families. It got perpetuated the reasons for why this is different are irrelevant. Not to mention the fact that Avery Brooks got the finale rewritten specifically because of this makes it worse. So in essence DRGIII went against the actor who played Sisko and the writers on the show who reworte a scene specifically because of that. I think its quite obvious that a firestorm would be unleashed.
Probably does not help that the only other major black male from the shows in Geordi is incapable of getting laid and having relationships with females.
Now, I don't approve of personal attacks or the charges of racism but this is was an obvious land mine. Now as I said not a racist but an arrogant move,
I'm sorry, but how can we take seriously the assertion that some people in TrekLit were not being overly negative and personally attacking when you call a creative decision with which you disagree (but which was based firmly in events seen in the series, including the Prophets' warning to Sisko that he would know only sorrow if he married Kassidy, and Sisko's established habit of sometimes running away from his problems and the life he's built when he feels overwhelmed) an "arrogant move?"
The guy disagreed with some people about what kind of person Sisko is. That's not arrogance, that's called having an interpretation of a character.