Yes I meant I'm sure but I sadly had to leave the keyboard before I reread it and edited and made it all perfect.
Mulgrew said they were going to hook Janeway up with Chakotay and she put her foot down and said NO, first woman captain needs to be getting on with the captaining and not messing around with romance. She was mad they were going in that direction.
As to 7 and Chakotay I think he was the perfect tester dummy lover for her. He's kind, he won't push her boundaries or do anything outside of his passive nature, he's an entrance level relationship. One step up from the hologram version. Of course she won't stay with him, but she made a safe choice and he made his usual choice--a complicated woman who calls the shots.