I'm pretty sure declaring yourself a despot makes you an asshole.
Nah, more like commanding officer than despot. Whether they like it or not, they need to operate like a fighting unit to survive, and "let's take a vote" doesn't work for that kind of situation. If anyone doesn't like it, he gave them the option to leave.
Pretty bad luck that out of 360 degrees of compass headings, the helicopter put the herd on a line to the farm!
I know nothing of the books, but the character that showed up at the end was pretty bizarre. I hope they can make it plausible.