It's funny, because I think they're a lot more similar than people think. Star Trek XI is better because it's more competently executed, but they're both pretty much cut from the "Trek action movie" cloth. Nemesis isn't nearly so bad as it's made out to be, it just came out at a bad time for Trek and didn't get the marketing effort.
You don't really see the degree of human arrogance on the part of the crew in nemesis as you do in the 2009 thing.
Yes, Picard rams Shinzons ship, but what is the context? what is at risk? Compare that to imposter kirk destroying a sitting duck ship in the 2009 thing, and there is no comparison. It was a very weak move to turn kirk into a space fairing terminator. That's part of the reason I refer to him as imposter kirk.