I think that Swallow's handling of the forced mindmeld at the end of Star Trek:VI redeems any "stereotype" issues in the novel.
I thought the 'resolution' of that was contrived to be honest.
Ditto here... it's just another sterotype added to the mix. Granted, I can understand that stereotype far more than using the out that makes its way into the bulk of the story... and I can't see a way around said view of the forced meld (especially having just read Yesterday's Son
That begin said...
At least, in my opinion.