No, we should all take them personally. It's not really a defensible statement or attitude, and it doesn't show a lot of maturity.
, by saying "She can have sex and romance all she wants outside of caracter in her private life," do you mean the character of Janeway or the actress Kate Mulgrew? Either way, you're not making a lot of sense. We've seen Janeway be romantic onscreen already, and Kate Mulgrew has been married and, I believe, has kids. And obviously she's not looking to you for permission on how to conduct herself.