I have been reading through this thread and reflecting on my own post. Everyone brings a unique perspective. And from that I have come to the realization that my biggest issue is that finding someone to be with is not really a high priority for me. For the most part, I am fine on my own and always have been. If my physical needs are being met than I don't really need a constant companion. I also don't believe in a soul-mate or love-at-first-sight. I believe instead in a relationship based on friendship and symbiosis. So far I haven't found that and I am not willing to settle.
My only real drive to find a "husband" would be to raise a child. I know I need to do it soon since I do not want to be chasing a three-year-old at forty. I will be 35 in January so I guess I need to get crackin!