Re: Authoritive Female leaders and thier sterotypes.
Janeway hardly ever came across as sexual - she really had a decidedly more maternal relationship with many of the crew, particularly Seven. For her and Seven to have a "thing" would be.... weird. Very weird. I honestly don't think her being God Emperor Captain of Voyager particularly compromised her femininity.
I think your pops is just a wee bit misogynistic.
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