As for fanvids feeling "stalkerish", I don't see that at all. I see them as fan creativity; taking the well-known clips and essentially exploring different connections between them along with music. Sometimes they can even clue you into bits of foreshadowing you didn't notice before, compare and contrast, be a humorous parody or even pack an even bigger emotional punch than ever before. They're great for character studies. And of course, there's always the lovely tribute-style videos. Some are totally superficial and some are actually quite dramatic, scary, funny, just random badassery, etc...
I'm personally a fan of vidding (and have made a few to various fandoms, myself), but each to his/her own.
I would say that Bordeaux video is my favorite thing on his site. Awesome.
Here's a Star Trek XI (entire cast) video that was nice: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4ojqReBm0Rw