Interestingly, almost every one of your points are things I have conceptual problems with.
I think the filming style is going to piss me off more than a bit. I am SO over time travel in ST films and, I have to say, people applauding things in films now(during, not so much at the conclusion)makes me want to stand up and say, "SHUT UP YOU STUPID NERDS!!!!" It just seems SO bloody stupid and just makes me feel embarrassed for them.
Similarly, with you, I have heard that Urban steals the film as McCoy and it is HIS performance I am MOST looking forward to.