Well, I don't know that I can condemn the Federation as whole-heartedly as you have, Thor
- yes, it is arrogant, but I think for the most part, its representatives are trying to do the right thing, and that counts for a lot. That's what makes them so annoying: that they are often - though certainly not always - so sure they know what the right thing is. For everybody.
But I don't know that I much like the idea of the AQ without them, either! The quadrant could do worse.