I don't understand the idea that it's only possible to identify with a person of one's own gender, ethnicity, nationality, or whatever. We're all human beings. We all have the same basic needs, drives, and emotions; only the nuances differ. I mean, isn't that what Star Trek
is all about? Showing that we can all relate to one another no matter what our surface differences?
Heck, the character in GTTS I identify with the most is T'Ryssa Chen, who's neither my sex nor my species.