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propita July 20 2013 05:28 AM

Turning 50 on the 22d...
...and I feel a bit depressed. I used to look forward to my birthday, even if we didn't make a big thing out of it. Now? Not so much.

I'm not looking at my mortality and wondering if I left a mark or anything. I know that I've helped people, especially classmates, do and become things they honestly might not have done without some help at the right time. I may not directly impact the world, but, as I've said in the past, I've been the catalyst to help others do big things.

But I'm down a bit. My husband wants to take me out on Sunday, but I know what will happen. We'll make a reservation someplace nice, then he'll get upset about something am hour before, start an argument, and things either get cancelled or have a cloud over them. I just don't want that for a birthday dinner, especially this one. I'd rather do nothing than have that memory for a 50th birthday.

Any ideas for the birthday blues?

teacake July 20 2013 05:50 AM

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You need to go out and spend money on yourself ALL Sunday without your husband. Meet him at the restaurant so he won't have the chance to be a downer beforehand. Be a little drunk when you get there, so if he starts griping about something you don't care.

I have learned one thing about birthdays and other "special" events. Plan to make it special yourself in a satisfying way and don't depend on other people to do it, or participate in it. Sure you would rather they did so, but making it special for yourself has less disappointments.

Australis July 20 2013 11:51 AM

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Tora Ziyal July 20 2013 02:29 PM

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I agree w/ Teacake's suggestion that you do something else special for/by yourself earlier in the day. Or on Monday, since that's your actual birthday.

propita July 20 2013 07:39 PM

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Thanks, guys (and gals)!

My mood darkened and deepened yesterday. Then my husband decided to try to "cheer me up." It had been a couple of weeks, due to heat and fatigue. Guess what?!

I'm addicted to endorphins. Must've been going through withdrawal, because all the sadness left.

I'm actually being serious. Sex cured my blues. I told my husband that, as a pharmacist, I'll need him to provide more regular refills of this prescription.

Melakon July 20 2013 07:54 PM

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Turning 50 didn't bother me much at all. Turning 35 bothered me more than 40 and 50 did. But hitting 60 was a bit of a downer. On the bright side, it's better than the alternative.

marksound July 20 2013 08:35 PM

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50 is a breeze. It's just a number, so who cares? It goes by so fast you'll hardly know it happened, and then you'll be 51.

My little sister is 51 and my baby brother will turn 50 in February. Man, they're getting old. :guffaw:

Tora Ziyal July 20 2013 09:02 PM

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Good solution, Propita! Cheap, too. :devil: I'm glad you're feeling better.

HaventGotALife July 21 2013 12:18 AM

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My hair is almost completely gone. I have gray hairs salting my dark brown pepper hair, on my arms, and up-top. Seriously, I used to hate my curly hair. It was so unmanageable, so I guess I got what I asked for. Lines are getting deeper in my face. My eyes look tremendously tired. They say beauty doesn't last forever. I'm not sure I was ever beautiful, but the youth is definitely fading. Not even 30 yet.

propita July 21 2013 01:00 AM

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I knew a boy at 14, had red hair like Chuckie from Rugrats. At 25, it was like Picard.

Here I am at 50 and my only white hairs are a couple in my eyebrow. I'm told I have a chance of having very few gray hairs otherwise. And nobody thinks I'm turning 50; they usually say, "not even 40!" So I'm not complaining about that either.

Velocity July 22 2013 03:05 AM

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Melakon wrote: (Post 8406505)
Turning 50 didn't bother me much at all. Turning 35 bothered me more than 40 and 50 did. But hitting 60 was a bit of a downer. On the bright side, it's better than the alternative.

When I turned 60, I was sort of surprised how pleased I was to have reached this age. That was mostly because I could retire, but I find myself telling people that I'm 60 with no qualms. Nice to get those "senior" discounts.
The main downside to 50 is menopause. Maybe that's why 60 isn't such a big deal. I hope you have a fun birthday and enjoy yourself.

Leith Jones July 22 2013 05:52 AM

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Velocity wrote: (Post 8412805)
The main downside to 50 is menopause.

Huh?! That's the best part!


I hope you have a fun birthday and enjoy yourself.
Yes - have a wonderful birthday.

I turned 50 almost 5 years ago. I am more comfortable and satisfied with myself than I ever have been. The main downside is the lack of energy.

There's a lot of life on the other side of 50 and it is good. :techman:

Gaseous Anomaly July 22 2013 05:56 AM

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Well it's less than an hour away so a very Happy Birthday to you. Cheers! :beer:

RJDiogenes July 22 2013 11:04 AM

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Happy Birthday! Looks like I noticed this thread just in time.

I hope you had a good dinner with no drama. What you should do is buy yourself a present-- something you've wanted for a while, but wouldn't normally buy.

And when you think about making a mark on the world, don't forget to take into account the Butterfly Effect. You didn't just help those people you've encountered-- you've also set an example. Many of them will remember that and go on to help others. Your goodness and kindness will ripple out into the world and into the future immeasurably; you'll never know the extent of the good that you've done. :)

As for turning 50, it didn't bother me at all. Mostly because I don't really believe I'm that old. I don't feel any different than I did 25 years ago. I got a touch of gray and maybe some new laugh lines on my face (and I've definitely gained a bit of weight, but that just brought me up to normal). As far as I'm concerned, I'm going to live forever and there's no evidence to dispute that assumption. :rommie:

propita July 22 2013 06:17 PM

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I'm really not too worried about getting older, as some might think. We recently visited friends we haven't seen in years and they said I looked pretty much the same as ever. I am on meds I never was at 40, but that's about it.

Grape, I agree. I/we try to set an example, and when people ask how they can repay, we tell them to pay it forward. People did for us when we needed it and wouldn't take anything for their help, so....

Well, I woke up to birthday text messages, these posts, and a nice "Happy Birthday" from Hubby. And he said that being with me was the best part of his life. Best present I could get! :)

Dinner last night was just fine! Delicious prime rib, and when the chocolate lava cake was brought out for us to share, Hubby sang me Happy Birthday. Well, he tried to sing it. He said that he did not know the words. I think he was serious because I had to coach him. He practically NEVER sings, so I can believe that he never paid attention to the lyrics--but they're really not that hard, right? But he was very sweet and that's what really matters.

So thanks to all!

Funny coincidence: If the royal baby is born today, we will share the birthday. Hubby's birthday is the same as Prince William's!

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