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Kestra February 1 2013 10:05 PM

Dating Range?
 
Was having a conversation about this and wondering what people typically consider for their dating range, in terms of age. Do you have mental limits or are you pretty open? I'm making separate categories for under your age (-) and over your age (+) since these can often be different numbers, so make sure to choose an option for each.

Mr. Laser Beam February 1 2013 10:09 PM

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I'm in my 40's, so I probably should not be dating anyone younger than 20.

Over? I dunno, maybe early 60's. (I do find older women attractive.)

thestrangequark February 1 2013 10:10 PM

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I prefer someone close to my age but could go slightly younger or somewhat older. I chose "+10 years", though maybe +5 would be more accurate. I've tended to date men within only a year or two of my age.

J. Allen February 1 2013 10:10 PM

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While I chose "-10 to +10", I'm actually fine with any age from 18 and up, though I do want a family, and children. Since I'm 32, anything beyond "+10" would be a little bit risky in that regard.

Kestra February 1 2013 10:18 PM

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I chose less than five and then ten years older, but really I think I'd like an older guy at this point. There are of course exceptions for this range, such as my second and third husbands, Patrick Stewart and Bruce Willis.

teacake February 1 2013 11:12 PM

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Kestra wrote: (Post 7625410)
I chose less than five and then ten years older, but really I think I'd like an older guy at this point. There are of course exceptions for this range, such as my second and third husbands, Patrick Stewart and Bruce Willis.

:guffaw:

Isn't Patrick Stewart everyone's exception?

The older you get the more fluid your range becomes and the less difference the age makes. If you have a big gap though at some point the older person's aging issues, whether in looks or life choices or health can potentially cause relationship issues. Yes I know people will say it shouldn't matter, but issues arise just like the do for other differences between people such as religion or culture.

I picked - 10 years even though it makes me bad because my biggest issue with men older than me or even my age has always been that every one of them appears to be a luddite. They listen to the same music they did when they were 20, they eschew any new trends or genres, they really are convinced that all new things life has to offer are inferior to whatever their golden era of life was (usually college).

My test would be..

Me: Do you like Lady Gaga?

Dude: It is TOTAL CRAP!!! (has never listened to it other than in the background of course)

/ GONG!! Good bye.

I can't have these luddite conversations. I don't know why but women seem to be more open to embracing a changing world, in my personal experience* anyway.

* yes this is a generalization based on my personal experience

Spot's Meow February 1 2013 11:19 PM

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I am 27, and I voted that I'd date someone less than 5 years younger than me, and not more than 5 years older than me. Basically, anyone age 24-32 would be alright. Though, it does depend on what stage the 24 year old is at, because I've been through the starving student phase of my life and have no desire to relive it with someone else. I've firmly moved out of the student lifestyle and into the full time working woman category, so I'd like to be with someone that can match that or is even further along in their career.

CorporalClegg February 1 2013 11:24 PM

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I'm one of those people who believes this sort of thing can't really be measured by a number.

There are so many different criteria that are so much more important to compatibility.

I know from personal experience. The one person I've ever really felt a strong connection to was about six years older than me. It was clear to both me and others that she felt the same way but had this ridiculous rule about dating guys several years younger than her. And no matter how much I pushed she refused to break it.

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teacake wrote: (Post 7625713)
Me: Do you like Lady Gaga?

Dude: It is TOTAL CRAP!!! (has never listened to it other than in the background of course)

/ GONG!! Good bye.

That rules me out. :p

auntiehill February 1 2013 11:24 PM

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I married someone 5 years older, so I put +5. But, to be honest, as long as they are somewhere AROUND my age, I don't care. I think having common interests and attitude is more important.

Hubby and I are both atheists, both Democrats, both sci geeks, movie buffs, mystery lovers and like board games. Neither of us drink, smoke or gamble.

Where we differ is that he is an IT guy and eats, sleeps and breathes computers, gadgets and all sorts of machines. I just surf the net. I like board games, he LIVES for board games. I LOVE animals, he tolerates them. He loves Babylon 5 and I love Blake's 7.

Being able to enjoy the same types of things is very important. I'm a fairly unattractive person, so I know he didn't fall in love with me for my looks. We have common interests and approaches. He's a little older than I am, but are experiences have been similar.

I'm not sure that someone 20 years younger than I would really have the same attitudes or frame of reference that I have; I think it would harder to find common ground. However, it's not impossible, not by any means. I just don't think it's as likely.

Miss Chicken February 1 2013 11:25 PM

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I don't bother with dating anymore. However during my life my dating range has varied from someone 7 years younger than me to someone 18 years older.

A couple of my friends have had relationships with age range of 20+. As long as both people in a relationship are willing adults I don't have a problem with age difference.

Squiggy February 1 2013 11:26 PM

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I was +/-5. Much more than that and I simply didn't connect with anyone.

auntiehill February 1 2013 11:26 PM

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Miss Chicken wrote: (Post 7625776)
I don't bother with dating anymore. However during my life my dating range has varied from someone 7 years younger than me to someone 18 years older.

A couple of my friends have had relationships with age range of 20+. As long as both people in a relationship are willing adults I don't have a problem with age difference.


^If they aren't "willing" adults, that would be kidnapping, not dating. :lol:

Miss Chicken February 1 2013 11:31 PM

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auntiehill wrote: (Post 7625788)
Quote:

Miss Chicken wrote: (Post 7625776)
I don't bother with dating anymore. However during my life my dating range has varied from someone 7 years younger than me to someone 18 years older.

A couple of my friends have had relationships with age range of 20+. As long as both people in a relationship are willing adults I don't have a problem with age difference.


^If they aren't "willing" adults, that would be kidnapping, not dating. :lol:

I would be a little concerned about the ages between the age of consent and adulthood, the 16 or 17 year olds. It would depend on the individual relationship in those cases.

Mr. Laser Beam February 1 2013 11:37 PM

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teacake wrote: (Post 7625713)
My test would be..

Me: Do you like Lady Gaga?

Dude: It is TOTAL CRAP!!! (has never listened to it other than in the background of course)

/ GONG!! Good bye.

:wah:

(actually I have never heard any of her songs. I just know I find her not at all attractive.)

Locutus of Bored February 1 2013 11:44 PM

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I didn't notice that it was a multiple choice poll, so I picked "-10," because that's my top preference, but in reality it would be "+/-10."

I'm not picky, though. If I can relate to you and we hit it off, I'll go outside the ten-year range, though skewing younger since I'm getting up there myself.

I think if Jurassic Park was made before you were born, or you lived through the Jurassic period, you're too young and old for me, respectively.


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