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Kommander November 8 2012 02:52 AM

I need to run this by some people...
 
Generally, when I have ideas that amuse me, I have a good sense if it's something that I can get away with, or if there will be negative consequences. Something like this I could get away with, whereas the consequences would outweigh the funny with, say, any amusing thought I have involving the TSA. However, I had a funny idea today that I really want to do, but I'm not sure how it will come off. So, I've decided to run it past you fine people.

There's this girl in my creative writing class that is awesome and I'm very much attracted to. From what I can tell, she feels the same way about me. However, neither of us is saying anything or acting on it. I'm not because I'm a huge chicken shit about asking girls out, and I'm hoping by leaving things unsaid at some point we'll just spontaneously start making out because real life is exactly the same as a romantic comedy. With her, it seems like she thinks I'm not interested in her, or she's waiting for spontaneous makeouts as well. I don't know, I'm not telepathic.

I thought the moment came last week. I made her some chainmail bracelets because I've noticed that women seem to like cheap jewellery as long as I make it myself. Right before I gave them to her, she pointed out that I seemed to be in a bad mood, and asked if I needed someone to talk to. I kind of was, but I don't know why. She was trying to be thoughtful, and then I get out the bracelets, showing that I'm thoughtful as well. She was taken completely by surprise and after a few moments of awkward silence, she said "I...have to hug you now."

Tuesday, we were back to not acknowledging anything. While leaving things unspoken is fun in some ways, I'd kind of like to get things going here, because subtle hints do not usually involve having sex and that is something I would very much like to do with her, among other things. So, that funny idea I'm not sure I should do that I mentioned:

Part of the creative writing class is reading things other people have written and filling out critique sheets. She asked me if I had anything I need reviewed on Tuesday, but I haven't written anything lately because I don't actually have to turn any more stories until the end of the month and I'm lazy. Later in the class, she said "You better have something for me to read on Thursday," but, well, it sounded less demanding when she said it. So, I figure she wants me to write something for her to read, I'll write something for her to read. I'll write about two people hinting that they're romantically interested in each other, not being direct, and being oblivious to the other person also being interested, throw in some references to conversations her an I have had, and title the story Story I Wrote Specifically for [Girl's Name].

My concerns are:

That she won't get it. Although, she seems to be reasonably intelligent, so she probably will.

That it's a bit much and I should just ask her out like a normal boring person. However, she's gathered that I'm rather intense at times and pull shit like this, and seems to like that about me, and I wouldn't want to disappoint her.

I am a HUGE chicken shit about asking girls out. Back in high school, there was this girl that I started developing feelings for, but she had a boyfriend and was monogamous so I didn't say anything. After they broke up, I told her how I felt and asked her out. She flipped out, and a few days later she called me into a meeting with some counsellors, acted like she was confronting me after a sexual assault, and left me feeling like a rapist. I've asked out plenty of girls since and nothing anywhere near as bad has happened, and I realize now that she was kind of very emotionally unstable and I did nothing wrong. But still, I am really fucking anxious every time because of that one incident and it is quite annoying.

So, good idea or what?

Kirby November 8 2012 03:12 AM

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As long as this thread doesn't get all MadBaggins-y, I'd recommend that you start small before asking her out. Simple, friendly conversations to start out and then eventually ask if she wants to get some coffee after class (give it at least two weeks of regular contact). Take it slow, and don't give her the impression that you're in love with her or anything.

Don't do that thing with the story, that's kind of creepy. Just write a good story man, make it light and funny. Don't make it personal, don't put her name, or pieces of conversations with her in it. just write.

teacake November 8 2012 04:20 AM

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I would write the story for her to read but I would not title it with her name. That way there's no pressure. With her name there it's kind of confronting because it puts her on the spot and she could worry that she will take it a way that you don't mean it and embarrassment could follow. I think if that's the sort of person you are the story is a great idea.

Kommander November 8 2012 04:24 AM

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Kirby wrote: (Post 7224232)
As long as this thread doesn't get all MadBaggins-y,

My story about being in love with my cousin is much less interesting. No wrestling, no Batgirl, and most disappointingly of all, no dude named Thames.

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Kirby wrote: (Post 7224232)
I'd recommend that you start small before asking her out. Simple, friendly conversations to start out and then eventually ask if she wants to get some coffee after class (give it at least two weeks of regular contact). Take it slow, and don't give her the impression that you're in love with her or anything.

We're at this point already. Even if I'm misreading her apparent romantic interest, she has expressed an interest in spending time with me outside of class, we just haven't yet. And no, I'm not in love with her, not yet anyway.

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Kirby wrote: (Post 7224232)
Don't do that thing with the story, that's kind of creepy. Just write a good story man, make it light and funny. Don't make it personal, don't put her name, or pieces of conversations with her in it. just write.

Given the situation, It would most likely come off as me being a smart ass than being creepy. Also, this situation aside it does seem like a good subject for a story.

Also, I have spent plenty of time talking to her, she knows what my personality is like, and it appeals to her. If she was going to be creeped out by me, she would have done so already. The situation is more "It seemed like this was going on with us, so I wrote a story about it because it's a fun idea. Also, would you like to meet for coffee later?" and not "Hi, I'm in your English class. I know we've never talked and I don't know you at all, but I'm in love with you and I bought you this engagement ring. Also, can I sniff your panties?"

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teacock wrote: (Post 7224472)
I would write the story for her to read but I would not title it with her name. That way there's no pressure. With her name there it's kind of confronting because it puts her on the spot and she could worry that she will take it a way that you don't mean it and embarrassment could follow. I think if that's the sort of person you are the story is a great idea.

That was mostly in response to her "you better have something for me to read on Thursday" comment. Something like "Since you had to be all demanding, not only did I actually write something, I wrote it just for you. I put you're name in the title and everything. Would you get off my ass now?" in a sarcastic tone.

Embarrassing myself I'm not concerned about. It happens plenty, I'm good at it, and it's usually funny. Embarrassing her is probably less desirable. Although embarrassing myself is probably more likely here.

sojourner November 8 2012 05:09 AM

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Nix the title of the story.

sidious618 November 8 2012 05:20 AM

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Don't do the title, the rest is fine. I actually think it's a neat idea and I'm interested in hearing what happens with it.

Kommander November 8 2012 05:25 AM

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sojourner wrote: (Post 7224622)
Nix the title of the story.

How about Story I Wrote Specifically for [Redacted] because She Was Being All Demanding about Having Something to Review Today?

Yeah, a title like Story I Wrote for [Girl's Name] kind of implies "I worked on this really hard because I want to impress you" whereas the reality is I'm going to half-ass for the next hour or two, go to sleep, and give it a quick edit tomorrow morning if I have time.

I'll see what I come up with before making a final decision on this. I'll also probably come up with a normal title.

Gary Mitchell November 8 2012 05:55 AM

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I'm the last person to be giving you advice on women, so I won't. Just wanted to wish you luck.

teacake November 8 2012 06:37 AM

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I think whatever title you use you should illustrate it with a train going through a tunnel.

Kommander November 8 2012 09:59 AM

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Festering Esper wrote: (Post 7224751)
I'm the last person to be giving you advice on women, so I won't. Just wanted to wish you luck.

Years ago I thought the same thing about myself, yet now I'm going to school because I want to be a sex therapist when I grow up. Life is funny like that sometimes.

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teacock wrote: (Post 7224820)
I think whatever title you use you should illustrate it with a train going through a tunnel.

I think instead I should include a picture of me licking half a grapefruit. I've got to appeal to my audience.

I finished the story. It's about a man and woman that met while on vacation getting ready to part ways. I wrote from the man's perspective, that hes' interested in the woman but is unsure if she's interested in him. I then copy/pasted the dialogue and wrote the same exchange from the woman's perspective, expressing similar thoughts. I also poked some fun at traditional gender roles, which might be of some use in my Psychology of Gender class. Might as well try to get more than one use out of it.

I changed the title to Oblivious. Seemed appropriate. I also managed to write a first-person female character and I didn't use the phrase "that time of the month" even once. That's got to be some sort of accomplishment.

I'll let everyone know how this goes tomorrow. I'd say it's 50/50 that I chicken out and tell the girl I didn't write anything.

teacake November 8 2012 11:18 AM

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Kommander wrote: (Post 7225135)
I also managed to write a first-person female character and I didn't use the phrase "that time of the month" even once.

Women don't actually talk like that.

Rhubarbodendron November 8 2012 12:21 PM

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I wouldn't do it. It's much too personal. Remember, she is supposed to read / review it in front of all the class. That'd be rather embarassing for her as she seems to be as shy as you are. And making her feel that uncomfortable would be the safest way to kill the relationship before it even started.

Write her a different story she can work on and give her the personal story as a present. You can say it's in return for the hug.

Kommander November 8 2012 05:22 PM

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teacock wrote: (Post 7225246)
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Kommander wrote: (Post 7225135)
I also managed to write a first-person female character and I didn't use the phrase "that time of the month" even once.

Women don't actually talk like that.

Women do a lot of things, and don't do a lot of other things. It comes up in conversation sometimes, but is not the central theme to every thought or conversation a woman has.

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Rhubarbodendron wrote: (Post 7225336)
I wouldn't do it. It's much too personal. Remember, she is supposed to read / review it in front of all the class. That'd be rather embarassing for her as she seems to be as shy as you are. And making her feel that uncomfortable would be the safest way to kill the relationship before it even started.

Write her a different story she can work on and give her the personal story as a present. You can say it's in return for the hug.

The reviews aren't done in front of the class. There are papers to fill out. Only I will see it, and the teacher if I turn it in later, unless I show it to other people for some reason. I could read the story to the class, but I don't have to. Also, while we're both hesitant to overtly point out the apparent mutual attraction between us, neither one of us is particularly shy. Also, we're both writers, and used to sharing personal things in general.

SmoothieX November 8 2012 06:22 PM

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Festering Esper wrote: (Post 7224751)
I'm the last person to be giving you advice on women, so I won't. Just wanted to wish you luck.

I got divorced 6 months ago, so this counts me out of giving advice too.

Kestra November 8 2012 06:27 PM

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SmoothieX wrote: (Post 7226293)
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Festering Esper wrote: (Post 7224751)
I'm the last person to be giving you advice on women, so I won't. Just wanted to wish you luck.

I got divorced 6 months ago, so this counts me out of giving advice too.

Nah, you just can't offer advice about one particular person.


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